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"If it was rly dat bad,why didnt u 'just' leaf🍃? "

Survivor:
Let me explain why its not just that easy 2 walk away from a relationship that's emotionally ab*sive:

#1: Trauma bond
Ab*se creates the cycle of really high highs & really low lows
& the lovebombin & the apologies get mixed with pain,
which tricks ur brain into holding on for the next good moment

#2: Youre more than likely in this fear & survival mode,
fear of retaliation,of losing ur kids,ur family,friends
being in a financial ruin,or being smeared by them
& your nervous system feels like leaf:ing could actually be worse than staying

#3: Gaslighting & self-doubt
They have convinced u that everything is ur fault,that you cant trust your own reality,
& u start to believe: "maybe i am overreacting,maybe i am the problem"

#4: Isolation
By the time the abuse is OBVIOUS,u often have no support system left;
friends,family,resources📚;
theyve been cut off ✂,or u feel too ashamed 2 reach out

So when some1 asks you, "why didnt you just leaf?",
remember that leaving abuse isnt just a switch that you can just flip.

📝 Its the process of;
Breaking a trauma bond,rebuilding safety,& reclaming ur sense of self

And for anybdy in that position RN:

There is NOTHING weak abt you. The fact that ur questioning IT,
means that your strength is showing 💪

Transcribed word by word(w/ insignificant tweaks) - actual quote
from NABS survivr (BeyondTheBruise).
If u can, pls listen 2 them. Insta/Tiktok. Every video,on repeat.
Make their words ur mantra - each day

If u CANT ⚠: u HAVE 2 let me(& others 👀) know,
+ the reason 4 that(fear of IT? constant surveilance?(gtfo asap) - NO idea, lmk).

I(ur friend) can repeat BTB's words for u("safely") here.
in small increments,1-2 times/week.
Somebdy cares 🖤💞 Hlp me hlp u 🤝 3:08
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by into_the_skies13 August 24, 2025