Definitions by Viola F. Blanton

have her cake and eat it too 

Once eaten, you no longer have it. Like having money and spending it all. Also, in marriage, security vs. freedom - if one cheats, they lose their security of keeping their mate.

She's married to Bob but seeing Bill. She can't have her cake and eat it too.

have her cake and eat it too by Viola F. Blanton May 28, 2006