A hopeless romantic is not the same as a hopeless flirter. A hopeless romantic dreams of who they will spend the rest of their life with and what the two of them will do together. They want to be romanced with sweet simple things and the thoughtful amazing surprises. They dream of being loved but also loving somebody. They don't just want somebody to hold them. they also want to hold someone. They realize that love isn't just about one person but both people. they are hopelessly in love with being loved AND loving back.
My friends is a perfect example of someone who isn't a hopeless romantic. She says she wants to be romanced but she flirts with every guy. And I mean EVERY guy. She calls herself a hopeless romantic but shes not. Once she has a guy that just wants to love her shes get bored after two weeks and then when he gets a new girlfriend she suddenly likes him again. Thats not hopeless romantic thats just hopeless.