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The realization that there aren't any main characters in the world and everyone has a complex life, thoughts, crushes, relatives, dreams and mind just as your own.

Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
The knowledge that both I and you reading this are actual people like the remaining 8 billion of us is making sonder hit me like a truck.
sonder by B O I B O I March 6, 2022
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1. A hard piece of snot, just inside the nostril but visible to anyone within conversation range. Usually hangs from and surrounds a nose hair the way wax surrounds a candle wick.

2. A semi-hard piece of snot that flies out of you nostril into a handkerchief or the palm of your hand when you sneeze.
When he sneezed, a snedley shot out his nose and landed in my french fries.
Snedley by B. H. McNultey November 21, 2009
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Sondous pronounced as "Sendes" is simply amazing. She's kind, beautiful and ambitious. And not to mention how her voice and laugh can make your day. If you find a Sondous you better "catch her" because you will be glad that you took the chance to have this amazing person in your life.
Girl/guy: OMG look! I wonder if that's a Sondous.

Girl/guy2: that's obviously a Sondous. She slays
sondous by tofflah123 April 21, 2016
Sonder is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. Sometimes your hurting so bad and you feel your the only one. But after all your hardships you start to realize that everybody is so unique and you aren't the only one. Everybody lives are so indescribably different and there is no way you will ever understand their lives. To sum it up you are realizing that your not the only one living with such chaos and complexity. All people lives are unique, strange, chaotic, and complex, just like yours. Your not alone.
I lay in bed so deep in my thoughts, the darkness was all around me while, slowly, the sonder started to kick in. I then realized that not only me, but all seven point fifty three billion people in this world which they are constantly living despite my personal lack of awareness of it.
sonder by _i_found_it_mom_ July 29, 2019
One of the band's string of hits between 1997 - 2001, Someday being released in June of 1999: more than a 4 minute song. Someday encompassed a vibe, an emotion of the era -- the care-free days of the late 90's. Performed brilliantly by the milquetoast 'pop-era' band, the melody with the lyrics can really let you fade back to a time for those of us had just started out life -- whether it be college, full-time work or an unforgettable 1st serious relationship.

Part of that special group of films, songs, cars and events that helped define my life in this pre and post 'Dub-ya' world. I hope this helps.
How Someday touched my life:

...Grace was tall, slender and frumpy, not that I had a particular type but she was unique, Gracie stood out; not because she was stunning – she wasn’t. She lacked that insidious cunt quality that most women that frequented these nightclubs had. Grace was the kind of girl that oozed a certain lack of self-esteem and high maintenance, yet she parlayed it with a certain sense of identity seldom seen anymore. The kind of girl that spent less time in front of a mirror, idolizing herself and more time cultivating her mind and various other gifts. A girl like Grace properly tended to can easily blossom in to a best in show, a real thinking mans wife. Either that: or a good mind fuck story.

We locked eyes to the tune of Someday by Sugar Ray; the sweet tinge of MDMA under my tongue had just started to kick in. It was love at first sight, I think. Thought – I don’t know. I just know I felt something, and it was something other than these fucking gas pains or this freaking heat rash I can’t seem to get rid of.
Someday by linky91 June 11, 2011
The realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own — populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries, and inherited craziness — an epic story that continues invisibility around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
The sonder of it all
Sonder by franzimash October 29, 2020
Briefly, "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." Originally from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, which has a lot more beautiful neologism definitions like this you might enjoy.
I felt deep sonder thinking about the all the people who looked up this word along with me.
sonder by rednos January 10, 2013
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