the erroneous placement of oneself at the
egocentric epicenter of a relationship regardless of depth or titles with an extreme emphasis placed upon third
party perceptions, which dictates
emotional treatment of others.
A woman or man whom has been so traumatized by
pass experiences that they exhibit an almost innate ability to
push away the concern and love of other individuals out of fear of experiencing a residual let down.
The woman's "emotional selfishness" would not allow her to have a romantic relationship with the man of her dreams, because the scars from past relationship crippled her romantic
courage.