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1.
1. Extreme narcissism, self-love, conceit.
2. Condition in which persons are literally in love with themselves and/or are primarily attracted to qualities in others that they themselves possess.
3. Mental state in which one's perception of reality is warped by self-obsession. The world exists only as a reflection of the self.

Also: One who places unusually high value on one's own opinions, appearance, and personality.
Paris Hilton is so self-gay she can't conceive of a guy who wouldn't want to sleep with her or a girl who wouldn't want to be her.
by Larissa and Adam November 15, 2005
 
2.
1. Extreme narcissism, self-love, conceit.
2. Condition in which persons are primarily attracted to qualities in others that they themselves possess.

Also: One who places unusually high value on one's own opinions, appearance, and personality.
Although Adam is obsessed with himself, he concedes that Larissa is even more self-gay than he is.
by Larissa and Adam October 30, 2005