The rules for "acting like a man"; the mentality, behaviors and restrictions that many men and boys are socialized to conform to. These tenets of the "cult of masculinity" are both symptoms and enablers of Dominator Culture. They can be so pervasive as to be almost invisible; yet they lead men to disrespect, mistreat, and abuse women and each other.
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THE MAN BOX
Demonstrate power/control (especially over women)
Aggression - Dominance - yell - intimidate
Do not cry openly or express emotions (except for anger)
Do not express weakness or fear - "take it"
Don't back down - don't make mistakes
Do not be "like a woman"
Heterosexual
Have lots of sex with women - "conquests"
Do not be "like a gay man"
Tough/Athletic/Competitive/Strength/Courage
Make Decisions - Never ask for help
Women viewed as property/objects (especially sexual objects)
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(Based largely on Tony Porter's TED talk "A Call to Men")
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THE MAN BOX
Demonstrate power/control (especially over women)
Aggression - Dominance - yell - intimidate
Do not cry openly or express emotions (except for anger)
Do not express weakness or fear - "take it"
Don't back down - don't make mistakes
Do not be "like a woman"
Heterosexual
Have lots of sex with women - "conquests"
Do not be "like a gay man"
Tough/Athletic/Competitive/Strength/Courage
Make Decisions - Never ask for help
Women viewed as property/objects (especially sexual objects)
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(Based largely on Tony Porter's TED talk "A Call to Men")
This is the love of my life, my daughter Jay. The world I envision for her -- how do I want men to be acting and behaving? ... I need you working with me and me working with you on how we raise our sons and teach them to be men -- that it's okay to not be dominating, that it's okay to have feelings and emotions, that it's okay to promote equality, that it's okay to have women who are just friends and that's it, that it's okay to be whole, that my liberation as a man is tied to your liberation as a woman.
I remember asking a nine-year-old boy ... "What would life be like for you, if you didn't have to adhere to this man box?" He said to me, "I would be free."
I remember asking a nine-year-old boy ... "What would life be like for you, if you didn't have to adhere to this man box?" He said to me, "I would be free."
by Grinning Cat March 29, 2013
If we're going to get the loot out of that state-of-the-art safe, we're going to need a top-notch box man.
by KevintheOH September 12, 2006
You almost do as well as the Box Man.
Wow! Don't compete with me, thats like trying to compete with Jesus or Box Man.
Wow! Don't compete with me, thats like trying to compete with Jesus or Box Man.
by Sonja Box Girl April 29, 2006
Man in the Box is one of the best songs by the American Grunge band Alice in Chains, it was written by their guitarist, Jerry Cantrell, and it was released in the album Facelift.
I'm the man in the box
Buried in my shit
Won't you come and save me?
Save me
Feed my eyes (Can you sew them shut?)
Jesus Christ (Deny your maker)
He who tries (Will be wasted)
Feed my eyes (Now you've sewn them) Shut
Buried in my shit
Won't you come and save me?
Save me
Feed my eyes (Can you sew them shut?)
Jesus Christ (Deny your maker)
He who tries (Will be wasted)
Feed my eyes (Now you've sewn them) Shut
by Maxus69 July 31, 2023
A song by the American rock band Alice in Chains. It was released as a single in January 1991 after being featured on the group's debut studio album, Facelift (1990). It peaked at No. 18 on Billboard's Mainstream Rock chart and was nominated for a Grammy Award for Best Hard Rock Performance in 1992.
by SPrice1980 August 7, 2022
THE BANANA BOXES HAVE THE HIGH GROUND
USA1:ha we Americans won the war
BBU:HA BITCH ARE YOUR SURE ABOUT THAT
Usa was never seen again
The Banana Box Man can COME IN MANY DIFFERENT TYPES THERE NATURAL HABITAT IS THE WOODS
USA1:ha we Americans won the war
BBU:HA BITCH ARE YOUR SURE ABOUT THAT
Usa was never seen again
The Banana Box Man can COME IN MANY DIFFERENT TYPES THERE NATURAL HABITAT IS THE WOODS
by deaalwithit101 February 20, 2022