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Using the language of assertiveness and related psychobabble to attack and belittle others. When confronted, the assertive-aggressive person can simply claim that they were being "assertive", "honest", or providing "constructive criticism", and imply that anyone questioning them is "immature".
Mary-Beth gave Johnny a very assertive-aggressive lecture on "boundaries" in front of the whole yoga class.
by ElevenMonster October 15, 2012