abrasive people tend to be over-aggressive and are in your face
abrasive people also tend to abuse power
Abrasive Person: "FUCK YOU MOTHER FUCKER, BLUE IS THE BEST FUCKING COLOUR EVER, FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK"
Normal person: "i don't like the colour blue"
Abrasive Person: "well every time we share jellybeans from now on I will make sure you get all the blue ones"
Note: The abrasive person in scenario 2 is completely serious because he is an asshole.
abrasive person: "I'm not really interested in discussing that with you."
non-abrasive pussy: looks sad and wets their pants.
non-abrasive pussy to a waitress: "oh, no, this will be fine"
abrasive person to a waitress: "This food tastes like shit. I'd like to speak to your manager."