The rapid activity of the hands to rearrange ones appearance usually followed by a period of scrutinized silent appraisal. You can primp for hours whereas the refuss in measured in seconds.
1.make someone an offer and give them the choice of accepting and living, or refusing and dying. Taken from "The Godfather" trilogy.
2. Same as above, but instead of killing them, you take(kill) something or someone very dear to them.
The band-leader refused to let Johnny Fontane out of his contract, so Don Corleone made him an offer he couldn't refuse.