Where you bring an older lady along with you on a potentially-problematic endeavor, so that any observers will feel less concerned/suspicious.distrustful of you and what you are wanting to accomplish. P.S.: This strategy **always** works --- no exceptions.
I first discovered the grandmother approach --- and how wonderfully effective it is for "opening doors" --- merely by accident at age 15, when Mother and I went to meet one of my favorite radio-announcers "after hours" ; the announcer had kindly agreed to come down the elevator and meet me outside during her break, and so my mother and I had gone to wait outside the front doors of the building. A burly security-guard or maintenance-man subsequently happened by and pleasantly asked if he could help us; we explained that we were waiting for my announcer-friend to come and say hello to us. Without hesitation, he said, "Well, there's no need for you to have to wait outdoors here; I can let you in and you can go up to the studio to wait." I am sure, however, that if I had just been there by myself, the employee would not have felt nearly so confident or trusting of me that he would have actually just allowed me to effortlessly "waltz right in" like that; I realized that it was my super-respectable-looking mother's presence that had caused the man to "automatically" figure that "we were okay". I have employed this "bringing an older lady along" strategy several times in subsequent years whenever I have been concerned about possible negativity/suspicion from others regading something I'd wanted to do, and it has ALWAYS succeeded --- people everywhere feel an automatic compulsion to respect an older lady, plus of course they would not want to behave disagreeably in front of her.
by QuacksO February 21, 2019
Get the grandmother approachmug. It isn't going to change. You're doimg this out of spite and I'm not going to let you off the hook for nothing. Again, I don't actually care about the morality of it at this point. If doing something immoral prevent you from "training" me. I'm not changing my behavior.
by Hym Iam April 7, 2024
Get the My approachmug. When you're asked random-ass obscure question in writing (e.g. via Email) referring to an even more obscure document (usually a spreadsheet), and are forced to acknowledge it's existence.
"Hey man, what-the-eff Jeff sent me a message apologizing for using the shogun approach, you have any idea what he's on about?"
by TheyCallMeBubbles April 2, 2019
Get the shogun approachmug. by ChettyTok March 25, 2025
Get the Cold Approachmug. by Flickdawristohhhh March 18, 2017
Get the Missed Approachmug. When an individual is unable to focus on one thing and wants to do/prioritise many things.
By doing so they fail to achieve anything
By doing so they fail to achieve anything
by ipa March 7, 2019
Get the Gung-ho Approachmug. Previously you failed, work doesn't stop. To continue progress complete tasks you were going to do.
Fun! Obviously distracted now brain wanna cooperate. Learn you circled back eventually by reminding yourself of the bad experience on accident: casual balance found.
Fun! Obviously distracted now brain wanna cooperate. Learn you circled back eventually by reminding yourself of the bad experience on accident: casual balance found.
by cerx February 27, 2024
Get the le approachemug.