Defined by author Jeff Brown in his book 'An Uncommon Bond', Woundmates are those relationships that are sourced in unresolved emotional patterns, issues and holdings. Not to be confused with soul-mates, which will also trigger shadowy material to the surface, but which hold a greater deal of promise. At the heart of soul-mate connections is an opportunity to work with the shadow in a growthful manner- working the material as grist for the soul mill- while wound-mates just flounder in the mud, trigger after trigger, downward spiral after downward spiral, attached at the waste. Woundmates are trouble with a capital T.
It took me 5 years to realize we were woundmates. I loved her so much, but we just couldn't stop hurting each other. I broke free and have felt better ever since.
by Soulful one August 19, 2013