1. A disrespectful name one lesbian has for her partner, implying she is nothing more than a pair of hands that operates the business end of a dildo.

2. A person who keeps a cigar in their mouth all day, but does not smoke said cigar. Most likely this person fantasizes about having a penis in their mouth but have not yet admitted to themselves that they are, in fact, a flaming faggot.
ex. 1: Hey Sandy, isn't that your girlfriend Sarah over there?

No, she's just my dildo hammer.

ex. 2: Why does that fucker have a goddamn cigar in his mouth all day? It looks like a limp penis with dog slobber all over it. He's such a dildo hammer.
by Harold M. North March 23, 2010
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That guy at work who strokes another guy's ego when he fucks up beyond explanation.
Ole dildo hammer is feeding Gary a line because he crashed the crane and can't fucking deal!
by Boceefus June 18, 2021
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