A form of passive aggressive behavior, done usually by a roommate, live in significant other, or family member done mostly in the kitchen but also in other cohabitated spaces such as the living room or bed room. Spite cleaning is done for the sole purpose of instilling guilt into another person and allowing the abuser to be mad or rude to the other person. Cleaning is often done in quick, jerking movements and loudly as possible by slamming things or clanking pots, bowls, and dishes. The spite cleaner will also block and prevent others from helping.
I had to take a dump as soon as I was done eating diner and before I was even done wiping I could here my gf stomping around the kitchen and spite cleaning because I should have done the dishes first instead of avoid crapping my pants.
by Kirco January 25, 2021