A feeling of chronic emptiness and loneliness. Abandonment of ourselves, and not listening to our own hopes and desires.

You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.

You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.

If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.

Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .

Tell yourself positive things.

Dont focus on failures.

Try not to minimize what you're feeling.

Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.

Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.

Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.

Commend yourself.

Desolation will pass...

Desolation by _The Secret_ August 14, 2019

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desolation

a desolation: Describes most inner city areas or major British conurbations. Robbed of individuality by retailing corporations, bent politics, comprehensive education and architectural vandals over a period of decades. More atmosphere on the lunar surface, somewhat less ineteresting than watching paint dry.

a. 'This town is dead'.

b. 'It's a desolation of a place. Let's go to Cardiff before they finish that off too'.

desolation by Hedley Clubnobber September 16, 2008

Desolation

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desolation row

The name of a Bob Dylan song. Indicative of a place where people who do not fit into society(free thinkers and artists) go to live. It does not necessarily have a negative connotation. Often visited by posers attempting to look cool by hanging out with the real free thinkers.

He is so literary. He must be straight off of desolation row.

desolation row by asdfaskldfj September 29, 2005

desolation of smaug

After anal, the gape is enough to fit a dragon in it.

I think she prolapsed, it's like the Desolation of Smaug

desolation of smaug by Aggroast April 16, 2017

Aj desolation

Has a major crush on guy fieri and would wear him on her body

Gel0: @ aj desolation really loves guy fieri
Me: Yeah
Aj: GUY FIERI LOOKS LIKE A PORN STAR YOU CAN'T CHANGE MY MIND

Aj desolation by Freddddddddi August 16, 2019

Galantir

A group of people, typically women, searching through someone’s digital footprint in order to find more information about that person.

Susie wasn’t sure if her new Hinge match was a creep, so she assembled Galantir and they found out he used to post slurs on gaming forums.

Galantir by Ge-sus September 22, 2026

Word of the Day on September 23, 2026

murderhobo

In a tabletop game, a murderhobo is a player who murders NPCs indiscriminately. This is normally derogatory, referring to a player who totally ignores quests, dialog, backstory, trade, world building etc.

The term is most common with Dungeons and Dragons, but it can be applied to most RPGs where the player is allowed to kill most quest-giving NPCs and NPC traders. E.g. Elder Scrolls, Fallout, Divinity original sin.

DM: The sad little orphan girl tugs at Steve's trenchcoat to get his attention, and ask for help saving her pet dog from...
Steve: I'd like to roll a strength check against strangling the orphan.
Dave: I call dibs on the dog.
DM: You murderhobos disgust me.

murderhobo by Loup&S September 9, 2021

Word of the Day on September 22, 2026

Whale

In sales terms, a whale is a prospect that is significantly larger than an organization’s average customer.

Whales are large and extremely difficult to close. Due to their immense size, they are highly sought-after.

A whale is typically identified at first by a whale hunter on the sales team, but often requires cross-discipline participation in order to close; this includes assistance from operations, engineering, creative, client success, and business development teams.

"Shit...the sales director chewed me out on the sales call this morning. He's totally pissed that I have nothing in my pipeline. I've been focused on this one whale for so long that I haven't had time to prospect for normal-sized deals."

Whale by FQ_GFY February 3, 2020

Word of the Day on September 21, 2026