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verb:
To cuddle a song; To display affection towards a song

noun:
a) The act of cuddling a song
b) The person that enjoys cuddling songs

Origin:

2013; simple moment of inspiration triggered by the feelings associated with a great tune. Product of song and cuddle. Old English cūthlǣcan and Old Norse sǫngr,
I wish i had a tune to sondle
I am a sondler
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The realization that there aren't any main characters in the world and everyone has a complex life, thoughts, crushes, relatives, dreams and mind just as your own.

Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
The knowledge that both I and you reading this are actual people like the remaining 8 billion of us is making sonder hit me like a truck.
sonder by B O I B O I March 6, 2022
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Sondle sondler sondre Sonder Sindler sandle Sandler sonde songle soodles

Sandler Jew

A person of Jewish Heritage that isn't very religious but has Jewish Blood.

Jews take pride I'm their bloodline, if your parents or close ancestors are Jewish you would be considered a Jew.

A close comparison would be a 'Jack Mormon'
Howard Stern, Adam Sandler, Harrison Ford and many others would be considered Sandler Jews.
Sandler Jew by Goldst3in January 12, 2013
Sonder is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. Sometimes your hurting so bad and you feel your the only one. But after all your hardships you start to realize that everybody is so unique and you aren't the only one. Everybody lives are so indescribably different and there is no way you will ever understand their lives. To sum it up you are realizing that your not the only one living with such chaos and complexity. All people lives are unique, strange, chaotic, and complex, just like yours. Your not alone.
I lay in bed so deep in my thoughts, the darkness was all around me while, slowly, the sonder started to kick in. I then realized that not only me, but all seven point fifty three billion people in this world which they are constantly living despite my personal lack of awareness of it.
sonder by _i_found_it_mom_ July 29, 2019
The realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own — populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries, and inherited craziness — an epic story that continues invisibility around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
The sonder of it all
Sonder by franzimash October 29, 2020
Briefly, "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." Originally from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, which has a lot more beautiful neologism definitions like this you might enjoy.
I felt deep sonder thinking about the all the people who looked up this word along with me.
sonder by rednos January 10, 2013

stephen sondheim 

A musical theater composer and lyricist, known for such works as Sweeney Todd, Into the Woods, A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum, Sunday in the Park with George, among many many others. He is widely regarded as a genius, for his extremely clever lyrics and inner-rhyming trickery.
I just saw Sweeney Todd, and it was the most brilliant and creepy thing I've ever witnessed. Stephen Sondheim is a genius.