The point during sex when, even after unsuccesfully attempting to "thumb in the softie", the dissatisfied "thumbee" consoles the "thumbeur" by hugging his softie in a sympathetic embrace.
Stuey: So... how did you get on with that slug last night? You didn't have to thumb in a softie
again did ya?
Sam: The poor bitch didn't even get that. But she did fall asleep cuddling a softie, so at least she didn't go home empty-handed.