A Toby is a insect, usually found in the back garden. The term, Toby, can also be used be used for a person who is sexually frustrated, and is usually extremely unpopular. To be Tobyish, is to be frigid, slow and extremely awkward.
-I saw a guy yesterday, totally Tobyish who was walking down the street, screaming "will you go out with me?!?" to every person he saw!
-What a Toby!