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1 definition by lynlyn70

 
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It is when a man or woman is obviously gay but doesnt know it until later..(gay-later)...usually after marrying and having children.
I told Steph, "my friend Jeff is a gay-ter, he's married with kids but he loves to play dance dance revo., write poetry, and always checking out my husband!"
by lynlyn70 August 09, 2008