24 definitions by _The Secret_
A feeling of chronic emptiness and loneliness. Abandonment of ourselves, and not listening to our own hopes and desires.
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
Tell yourself positive things.
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
by _The Secret_ August 14, 2019
A feeling driven by extreme emotional suffering. A feeling so strong it starts to affect your general well-being whether it be psychological or physical.
Usually a feeling brought on by yearning or fond memories of a certain person; which when any form of pain arises it is amplified.
Usually a feeling brought on by yearning or fond memories of a certain person; which when any form of pain arises it is amplified.
by _The Secret_ August 7, 2019
by _The Secret_ December 25, 2019
The person you want in your life forever, someone you built a strong connection with through an extremely rough time. You grew together, and although you had hard times together you both learnt and grew stronger as people.
You said some hurtful things to her/him, but none of it you meant. You'd made false allegations to hurt her/him without thinking of how that might affect them. It most likely started out of pain from something they did early on in the relationship. Your frustration has turned to some hurtful things.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
by _The Secret_ March 25, 2020
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Mirroring or The chameleon effect describes our human instinct to “empathise and affiliate” with other people.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
Also referred to as mimicry, it can occur subconsciously. Your spouse or crush may be overseas in China, and you could find yourself subconsciously travelling nearby to Chinatown, New York for example, as a way of being with them. Mirroring consists of a wide-ranging spectrum including, but not limited to, dress, gestures, vocal pitch and tone, posture, distance, eye contact, distance, and body orientation.
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
When you gaze into the nightsky in thee early hours of the morning with that someone dear to your heart and see several shooting stars and sheet lightning in the distance, and a funny feeling comes over you. You feel butterflies inside, like a sign from God.
When you develop an infatuation for someone you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you. It doesn't need to be a good reason. Taking photographs under the night sky, for example. Now, in the long run, that's just the kind of dumb, irritating habit that would cause you to split up. But in the haze of infatuation, it's just what you've been searching for all these years.
by _The Secret_ March 31, 2020