Originally the word virgin was used as a title of a girl who was "spoken for" usually about 3 years before she was old enough to be married. In those days girls were "bought" with a dowry from their families before they were even sexually mature, therefore they had intact hymens. I have no idea why thousands of years later we are still attaching value to a thin piece of skin that could be ruptured by a fall or even starting a period, instead of recognizing that virgin only means promised to another and therefore off limits. In some countries women are still being "given" and "taken" by others for money and the man's mother is who actually breaks the girl's hymen, producing blood, to "prove her purity." To save a girl from being "ruined" men in these countries have anal sex instead, unintentionally causing the spread of disease and spiritual toxification of themselves and their women, thus turning "virgins" into "prostitutes" for sale to their mothers, who control the money, and therefore want to maintain control of their sons (who earn that money)
through spiritual manipulation of his mate, because she would be the only real competition for his affection and allegiance, so she is dominated in such a way as to make her forget her own value and she is less capable of strengthening her husband. If the 2 really do become as one, then this act of undermining their marriage is just like the false mother who tells King Solomon to go ahead and cut the "baby" in half. She stands to make money from their "death." But the King orders the soldiers to give the baby to the real mother, the one who was willing to give away her child and lose her own protection rather than see him killed.
My hymen is broken, but I am a real virgin, promised to someone who bought me without money, by actually loving me. I am virginesque in my heart, causing me to refrain from giving my affections to anyone else because I love him and am waiting for him; not because a piece of skin has monetary or spiritual value, not even because I've never been intimate with another, but because I am promised to him and because he made me believe in love again by loving me first, with or without a stupid hymen!