chastise

To cause a mate to be without orgasms, or restricted in arousal. To keep restricted within a chastity device: for women, to prevent penetration; for men, to prevent erection and fondling. See cbt. See also tease.
Marriage for this unusual couple marked the beginning of his frustration: she chastised him for weeks at a time, while consorting and cavorting herself with his best friends and neighbors.
by Slick Willy March 16, 2005
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also-ran

neither a loser nor a winner, inescapably more pathetic, less evocative of empathy, less romantic than winner or loser.
The Hollywood starlet had been attracted to champions and to down-and-outlaws, but the milquetoast also-ran in his Ford Pinto didn't even register beyond her retina.
by Slick Willy February 19, 2005
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