1 definition by Old Dust
The "friendzone" is indeed a place of Hell on Earth, often for the man who “tries to do the right thing” by being a gentleman and respecting a woman’s choice of who she wants to date.
In the friendzone, he will become her friend when she rejects him because he believes that if he does so, she will eventually recognize what a great guy he is and “come around”. She will want him to be around, her confidant and patsy who she can spend time doing most of the things that she would do with a boyfriend except for those duties that are fulfilled in a sexual manner. She would also like her car fixed, repairs on her house and generally anything that a capable and worthwhile man can do. Why not? He’s usually offering it. Many women know that the reason the man is doing this is because he likes her, which is what pisses off some hetero males and makes them condemn all women as being shallow and selfish bitches. However, this is certainly not true of all women as some fall for the dishonesty of a man who is not sharing his true motives.
In some cases, the man could be a gentleman who truly wants to give her an opportunity to get to know him and how he would treat her if they were otherwise a couple. However, there is often a bigger lie on the man’s part, as he is really being her friend for the ultimate payoff of a romantic relationship and deep down he knows this isn’t likely to happen; yet he continues on behaving otherwise since he believes she is worth the pain and self-sacrifice.
In some cases, the man could be a gentleman who truly wants to give her an opportunity to get to know him and how he would treat her if they were otherwise a couple. However, there is often a bigger lie on the man’s part, as he is really being her friend for the ultimate payoff of a romantic relationship and deep down he knows this isn’t likely to happen; yet he continues on behaving otherwise since he believes she is worth the pain and self-sacrifice.
by Old Dust June 6, 2015