Conforming to non-conformism...
Despite what may have been said about goths, they do not "conform to the non-conformist" lifestyle. Those people are the preps
, and the like. These people (the conformists
) take the original nature of gothic culture and package it into things like metallica
who, despite what some fans might like to believe, were sellouts from the very beginning; taking dirty, hard, and soulful music and predigesting it for consumption by the masses.
culture, based off gothic culture, is lecherous and destructive to the goth image; trying to scare people by combining cultism, mob tactics, goth, and emo lifestyles into one big fake dark smudge.
The darkly dressed man sitting in the corner and drawing, reading, or wrapped up in deep thought is probably a goth.