in·gen·di·ar·
y
/inˈjendēˌerē/
noun., The explosive assault of someone wanting you to
define your
gender, usually in a
case where one is unwilling, unable, afraid, or incapable of having such a discussion. Akin to asking someone "Where are you from?"
adjective
(of a request or introduction mechanism) designed to highlight
gender and use of gender pronouns, specifically on the unwilling or unable.
"incendiary request to
name preferred gender pronouns"
synonyms: confrontational, overly inquisitive, accusatory, inflammatory, rabble-rousing, provocative, agitational, subversive, revolutionary, insurrectionary, insurrectionist;
"ingendiary rhetoric"
"her ingendiary speech provoked a non-binary riot"
antonyms: conciliatory
noun
an ingendiary device.
"an introduction loaded with ingendiaries"
a person who starts a confrontation, specifically in a
gender context; a person who stirs up conflict.
"ingendiaries derailed the conference"
As I
sat in the meeting eagerly awaiting a discussion on race and
bias, I was thrown an ingendiary to
define myself using my preferred gender pronouns.