On the other hand, "hard done by" should NEVER be used to describe someone who is trying to recover from a genuinely tragic event.
Friend #2: "it's pathetic all right...."
Friend #3: "I can't believe how hard done by Jessica has been acting lately."
Friend #4: "Well what do you expect? her brother just died! Isn't that kind of low, calling her names when something so terrible has happened?" (storms off.)