In other words the girl your trying make as your girlfriend keeps you on the beginning stage of your relationship due to a bad past experience or insecurity within her to get you any play. It's similar to being on the friendzone or not sure if your in a relationship. You can thank the last asshole that broke her heart.
Jake: "I don't know we're still on the dating level."
Sam: "It's been 9 months bro???"
Jake: "She's still hurting bro & can't make up her mind."
Sam: "Did ya'll kiss yet?"
Jake: Does a peck on the lips count?"
Sam: "You need a hug bro."
Jake: "Thanks man."