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a lesbian who takes over in bed but she appears to be feminine in society and dresses feminine.Agressive fems usually take over in a lot of scenarios in everyday life. Dominant but can be submissive if her lover wants her to.
The rappers Queen Latifah and Missy ELliott are examples of aggressive femme.
by Michelle Malone May 03, 2006