A phrase used to temper emotions after direct, if not harsh, feedback. It's used to remind the receiver that their relationship is primary and important, and the feedback or comment comes with no intention to ruin the relationship, only to strengthen it.
People love Patrick's self-help program because even though he's super direct, he keeps the relationship intact. His trick is to say "are we still friends?" throughout the tough sessions. He'll call you out and yet somehow you don't feel beat down. I think that's why he's always booked.
Patrick: "You drank and gambled all your money away. You've chased away anyone who ever dared to love you. You're a total clusterfuck. Now look in that mirror right there and tell me who you are and who you can be without blaming anyone."
Me: *big sigh* "Hmmm... that big mirror?"
Patrick: "Yea... are we still friends?"
Me: *chuckles* ... "Yea... I guess we are."
Patrick: "You drank and gambled all your money away. You've chased away anyone who ever dared to love you. You're a total clusterfuck. Now look in that mirror right there and tell me who you are and who you can be without blaming anyone."
Me: *big sigh* "Hmmm... that big mirror?"
Patrick: "Yea... are we still friends?"
Me: *chuckles* ... "Yea... I guess we are."
by axolotyl92 June 12, 2022
A sentence used while dumping someone. What it really means is that you two will still be friends, but nothing more. In other words, no more pussy.
Sean, I feel like my feelings for you have been fading. I shouldn't have said yes to you in the first place, but I still want to be friends. That's OK right? (gives innocent smile)
by SuPaPnOy2ReSQU June 15, 2004
An old cliché used, mostly by girls, who dump their boyfriend/girlfriend, to try to lessen the blow and hurt they will go through for months. However, being friends can never happen and they will soon forget about you, leaving you to pick up the broken pieces of your heart all alone.
by Colesyyy July 4, 2009