Originating from lyrics in Ice-T's song "Don't Hate the Playa", it was taken as a motto by the Pick-Up/Seduction community as a way of saying "don't hate the guy who's using seduction technics, hate the system that made him do it".
It is both a justification and critic of the men-women social (and some would say biological) dynamics, that entices men (and sometimes women) learning and using highly elaborate methods, sometimes seen as manipulation or social engineering technics, for the main purpose of seducing a women (or man).
It is often justified as a mean to one's end by the argument that "women are wired either biologically or socially such a way that, you HAVE to follow or use particular steps or methods, either naturally or by learning them, in order to seduce a women". Some people going further argument that "women have no choice in the way their brain and emotion are biologically wired, meaning they have no choice in the way they respond to men and seduction, so men have sometimes no choice but to apply these seductions methods of which the practice is called The Game".
It is both a justification and critic of the men-women social (and some would say biological) dynamics, that entices men (and sometimes women) learning and using highly elaborate methods, sometimes seen as manipulation or social engineering technics, for the main purpose of seducing a women (or man).
It is often justified as a mean to one's end by the argument that "women are wired either biologically or socially such a way that, you HAVE to follow or use particular steps or methods, either naturally or by learning them, in order to seduce a women". Some people going further argument that "women have no choice in the way their brain and emotion are biologically wired, meaning they have no choice in the way they respond to men and seduction, so men have sometimes no choice but to apply these seductions methods of which the practice is called The Game".
by Augure July 20, 2015
Don't be mad at someone/something because they weren't the one that made you upset or hurt in the first place.
Ex. somebody cheating on someone, somebody losing a basketball game, etc.
Ex. somebody cheating on someone, somebody losing a basketball game, etc.
Player 1: Girlfriend
Player 2: Boyfriend
Player 3: Side-Chick
Player1: * walks in on Player 2&3 having an affair *
" What the heck is going on here and who is this? "
Player 2: " Oh shoot, baby I am so sorry. "
Player 3: " Who is this!! Are you his girlfriend or something? "
Player 1: " Yes actually I am. Did you know that we were dating?"
Player 3: " No! He told me he was single and that he loved me,"
Player 1: " Well, that's ok. I don't hate the player, hate the game!! "
Player 2: Boyfriend
Player 3: Side-Chick
Player1: * walks in on Player 2&3 having an affair *
" What the heck is going on here and who is this? "
Player 2: " Oh shoot, baby I am so sorry. "
Player 3: " Who is this!! Are you his girlfriend or something? "
Player 1: " Yes actually I am. Did you know that we were dating?"
Player 3: " No! He told me he was single and that he loved me,"
Player 1: " Well, that's ok. I don't hate the player, hate the game!! "
by anothergalfromdahood July 10, 2018
1. "Dude WTF?!"
"Don't hate the player, hate the game.
2. Yo' man I ain't ever gonna diss your name
Cuz I'm not hating players, I'm hating the game
"Don't hate the player, hate the game.
2. Yo' man I ain't ever gonna diss your name
Cuz I'm not hating players, I'm hating the game
by error405 March 1, 2016
First of all the other definitions of this are pretty much bullshit. Women can just as much have sex with lots of guys by using the same phrase. First thing you do if you have problems in relationship: Talk about and search for the mistake in you first, not at your partner...
No politician ever used this sentence to justify war.
This simply means you shouldn´t focus your hate on the guy who did something but rather on the system that gave him the opportunity to do so. Guy gets lots of money by being a ruthless banker? Stop trying to change or hate him. You should rather try to change the system that is giving him the chance to do so.
No politician ever used this sentence to justify war.
This simply means you shouldn´t focus your hate on the guy who did something but rather on the system that gave him the opportunity to do so. Guy gets lots of money by being a ruthless banker? Stop trying to change or hate him. You should rather try to change the system that is giving him the chance to do so.
by TheGoodMilk February 2, 2015
Same as people causing wars for religious purposes a.k.a getting justification for doing one's own ideals and mostly wrong thigs.
by jakesters October 15, 2010
Girl: What the f!ck are you messing around with that five dollar tittie girl
Me: He honey listen,
don't hate the player hate the game
Me: Opens door, giving the same kiss she will never forget, and say "Call you beautifull"
Me: Driving off with 220 Km/h, Music play's in the background " It's Seven O'Clock on the DOT, i'm in my Audi TT cruisin' the street" Calling the other one on THE list, the holy of holy's :
My phone!
Me: He honey listen,
don't hate the player hate the game
Me: Opens door, giving the same kiss she will never forget, and say "Call you beautifull"
Me: Driving off with 220 Km/h, Music play's in the background " It's Seven O'Clock on the DOT, i'm in my Audi TT cruisin' the street" Calling the other one on THE list, the holy of holy's :
My phone!
by D-TT February 23, 2007
Because its hard to believe that you shouldnt hate a player for being a player when it says dont hate the player hate the game; how exactly are you supposed to hate objectifying women for your own profit?
This has nothing to do with 'players' or 'player hating' and 'dont hate the player' is NOT a reasonable excuse to sleep around with more women than you need.
This phrase has a very specific meaning that relinquishes the actual player of wrong doing not because they're doing it to survive because that is just the way 'the game' is played.
What is 'the game'; the game is us. People. Playing each other every day all day long and thats just the way it is.
I think what makes a guy carrying on relationships with different women as being seen by some as excessive, ridiculous and rude but some guys find that when they are with a woman she is distant and uninterested, bossy but if they're into another woman its another story about what's 'expected' of them when all they want is just to -be- ...on the side of men and women, we've both done alot of damage to either side.
( Women were never meant to be a playground for conquering and pleasure but they're own person, next to the man as we need them both to procreate but America should have said yes to gay marriage no questions asked. Problem is churches giving large donations to government institutions enough to actually threaten to pull funding if they don't get their way.)
This has nothing to do with 'players' or 'player hating' and 'dont hate the player' is NOT a reasonable excuse to sleep around with more women than you need.
This phrase has a very specific meaning that relinquishes the actual player of wrong doing not because they're doing it to survive because that is just the way 'the game' is played.
What is 'the game'; the game is us. People. Playing each other every day all day long and thats just the way it is.
I think what makes a guy carrying on relationships with different women as being seen by some as excessive, ridiculous and rude but some guys find that when they are with a woman she is distant and uninterested, bossy but if they're into another woman its another story about what's 'expected' of them when all they want is just to -be- ...on the side of men and women, we've both done alot of damage to either side.
( Women were never meant to be a playground for conquering and pleasure but they're own person, next to the man as we need them both to procreate but America should have said yes to gay marriage no questions asked. Problem is churches giving large donations to government institutions enough to actually threaten to pull funding if they don't get their way.)
Two guys are playing poker and Guy A has Two Pair and Guy B has nothing with a straight on the river potentially between them.
Guy A Bets. Two pair is a good hand.
Guy B bets. Has nothing. (Bluff)
Guy A bets again just to check.
Guy B raises.
Guy A Folds.
Guy B doesn't have to show his hand. In fact Guy A can ask but Guy B doesnt' have to say at all. But lets say Guy A asks Guy B what his hand was and finds out he bluffed. Lets say Guy B's never played poker before and never met someone that had LIED to him before and thought that since they were buds they would play fair.
This is a situations where he could say don't hate the player hate the game. Because the end that's just the way the game is played.
However, it was the player that took it on themselves to play the game that way as opposed to playing fairly with friends but the end result is that's just the way the game is played. The player is basically taking advantage of the rules however that kind of play is not for everyone. Therefore, hate the game, for having rules that allow those chinks, and not the player.
This example extends to the real world in tiny and small ways. Its anything that is perfectly legimitate deemed as legitimate between a group of people that a smaller group of people can not handle but a certain group can. It doesnt have to mean that something illegal is being done. Whats seen as meant by 'player' but that 'player' could be any of us.
Guy A Bets. Two pair is a good hand.
Guy B bets. Has nothing. (Bluff)
Guy A bets again just to check.
Guy B raises.
Guy A Folds.
Guy B doesn't have to show his hand. In fact Guy A can ask but Guy B doesnt' have to say at all. But lets say Guy A asks Guy B what his hand was and finds out he bluffed. Lets say Guy B's never played poker before and never met someone that had LIED to him before and thought that since they were buds they would play fair.
This is a situations where he could say don't hate the player hate the game. Because the end that's just the way the game is played.
However, it was the player that took it on themselves to play the game that way as opposed to playing fairly with friends but the end result is that's just the way the game is played. The player is basically taking advantage of the rules however that kind of play is not for everyone. Therefore, hate the game, for having rules that allow those chinks, and not the player.
This example extends to the real world in tiny and small ways. Its anything that is perfectly legimitate deemed as legitimate between a group of people that a smaller group of people can not handle but a certain group can. It doesnt have to mean that something illegal is being done. Whats seen as meant by 'player' but that 'player' could be any of us.
by TheOneandOnlyAlliyah July 29, 2014