(verb) the action of sub-consciously getting a girl to fall in love with you. An enabler is extremely precise and strategically tactful. They will engage in constant texting, planning of casual dinners and RomCom date nights. An enabler does not limit himself to one target and will occupy his time in multiple engagements with girls often in the same group of friends.
After a girl is successfully enabled; the "enabler" becomes officially bored and will subsequently deploy the response mechanism known as disabling. A disabler will refuse to response to messages/calls and avoid social events where the "enablee" will be in attendance
Guy 1: Why are you so upset?
Guy 2: I've got to stop enabling these Melbourne girls. They get upset if I shower them in affection and then delete them from facebook after I'm bored
Guy1: You need to work on your disabling techniques man