To pretend to be compassionate, kind, etc. in order to manipulate someone else, often for the purpose of exploiting or swindling him or her. A form of deception common in romantic relationships and business deals. A slowhandler is different from a golddigger
primarily because slowhandlers are pursuing very specific goals, whereas golddiggers are after whatever they can get their hands on. Additionally, slowhandlers are usually more subtle and are not restricted to being female.