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One of the most poorly understood phenomena EVER. Basically, how a girl acts when she really wants a guy. Most girls have this down to a fine art via instinct, while those who don't are the clingy types who give a man the willies. It is far better to have a girlfriend who plays hard to get than a clinger!

So basically, on the one hand, hard to get is a Machiavellian psychological tantalization technique to make the guy desire her more than anybody else, while on the other hand, it is a test to see if the guy is actually a little boy rather than a man, in which case the girl WILL blow him off and the guy will whine to everybody about how the girl is such a tease. Meanwhile, a real man will hide from everybody (except maybe his mother -- which is why mothers-in-law oftentimes are hostile to a woman!) how she's affecting him, which will only make her continue her actions. A classic example of "boiling the frog slowly".
The beautiful and intelligent Lisa thought Tim was the coolest guy in town, so she decided to marry him. Meanwhile, Tim had become extremely wary of women, as he had actually had very little luck, but had the good sense to concentrate on his work instead. Knowing that most men are afraid of marriage, she decided to hook him by playing the old hard to get game. And she used the deluxe version, by letting her chump boyfriend hang around, further decreasing his suspicions on her designs. And her teasing and withdrawing arose his primal instincts to such a degree that he found himself constrained to pursue her. Not often -- only about once a week or two -- but when he did, unlike before, there was a strange decisiveness to his act, without any creepy hesitation -- whether asking for her number, calling her, or asking her out.

The only reason he did not blow her off entirely was the fact that they actually kept progressing... two months later, he had her (real) number; two more months later, they actually went out for the first time; two more months later, they kissed; two more months, they... well, you get the picture. Tim only started to get suspicious six months after people started calling her his girlfriend. Yet Lisa actually treated him so well that he couldn't run away.

Ten years later Tim found himself with four kids and Lisa making dinner for him every evening. Lisa smirked as she gave him his favorite lasagna. Mission accomplished!
by Corvinus April 16, 2008

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