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getting the most for the least

A phrase which encapsulates the idea that it is rational for every participant in an interaction to always endeavor to get the most by giving the least.

The fact that every participant in an interaction always endeavors to get the most by giving the least reveals that every human interaction is a negotiation. That reality of life is called "getting the most for the least."

by but for April 19, 2018

self-created difficulty

Unknowingly or unconsciously making an action harder for one to perform.

Charlie noticed that without realizing they are doing it, people sometimes make things harder for themselves, and/or occasionally for others to do. He named that action a "self-created difficulty."

by but for February 17, 2021

positive or negative

Two extremes which help classify each person, place, thing.

They met Saturday. The man complimented her beautiful face telling her her features were those of classic greek or italian women. She thanked each time he found a different way to say that and did everything within her power to create the most positive first impression by speaking perfectly and looking at him lovingly, which he also complimented her on. When by coincidence her mother, father, and brother entered the supermarket, they saw her talking with the man at a table in the eating area and said hello to the girl but did not approach them. Seeing how unattractive the members of her family initially looked to him turned him off, but over the weekend he fell in love with her, and Monday he realized that he considered external appearances unimportant, and that—thinking twice—the members of the girls family were also unpretentious. So, in time he got to know them and like them. Seeing they were poor, a few weeks later, he invited them to be partners in a new childcare business.

Though most people generally agree on what is positive and what is negative, one individual may interpret a thing to be positive, and a different individual may interpret it to be negative. Do you consider that chain of events to be positive or negative?

by but for February 13, 2018

word-direct

The fact that the words individuals hear or read control the ways they think, feel, and act.

Human beings are directed by the words they hear or read, and also greatly influenced by the ways their parents, the members of their family, friends, neighbors, classmates behave, and by other role models, all of whom—intentionally or not—by example, intentionally or not, get others to do or not do the things they do. So, I am writing the lyrics to a song to word-direct as many people as possible.

by but for April 20, 2018

reproductive act

Sex is the reproductive act.

Calling the reproductive act "sex" leads young people to engage in sexual intercourse mostly oblivious to the main possible consequence—creating a new life.

by but for December 3, 2017

Identity Imposition

Intentionally injecting a victim with a specific identity—which can be better or worse than their prevalent identity—by treating them in a certain way in order to manipulate him or her.

My mother is an intuitive master practitioner of identity imposition, she treats me like a genius somedays when we are on good terms, and like a fool when we fall into a conflict.

by but for October 1, 2017

undermove

To move one's body less than one needs to move it to be healthy.

All the conveniences Americans have at their disposal makes them undermove. To not walk—which is what our bodies are designed to do a lot of—I used to drive three blocks to the grocery store. No wonder so many people wind up getting knee surgery. Undermoving atrophies muscles.

by but for December 24, 2017