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Good homophobe

A person who is averse to homosexuality, but who is not a bad person.

Tom violently attacks gays because he is a bad person and also a homophobe. Jerry is disgusted by gays, but he doesn't treat them badly, because he is a good person, so that makes him a good homophobe. A person who is disgusted by gays is not automatically a bad person, but a person who automatically attacks and "cancels" everyone whose thoughts and beliefs they disagree with, that is a tyrant and a bad person.

by RealHonestDefinition April 1, 2023

Neuroarchy

A societal system where neurotypical individuals hold dominant power and enforce neuronormativity, shaping workplaces, schools, and social expectations in ways that prioritize neurotypical ways of thinking while making life more difficult for autistic people. The neuroarchy is often maintained without conscious intent, as neurotypicals assume their way of thinking and behaving is the default. This leads to environments where autistic people are pressured to mask, suppress their natural traits, and conform to neurotypical expectations—sometimes through Neuroconversion Therapy, a practice that attempts to "train" autistic people to behave more neurotypically.

The neuroarchy makes life harder for autistic people, and those who struggle to conform are often pushed toward neuroconversion therapy.

by RealHonestDefinition March 9, 2025

cylon

An inaccurate digital copy of the mind of a specific person, made only from data about them instead of a brain scan, or made from a corrupted scan, which believes itself to be an exact copy or continuation of the original person. This term especially applies if they inhabit a biological body.

Panelist at a sci fi convention:
Of course Zoe Graystone from "Caprica" is literally a cylon...it's directly stated in the show. And I agree that Nanette Cole from "Black Mirror" is one too, since she was made only from a DNA scan. Aida from "Agents of Shield" is almost one, with that human body, but she doesn't think she is a copy of a real person. Bishop from "Legends of Tomorrow" is made from a brain scan, but it was corrupted by repeated copying, so he ends up being a cylon by the end. Holly Marten from "Eureka" wasn't properly scanned, and then was given a human body, so she might be a cylon too.

by RealHonestDefinition May 16, 2025

Deadnaming

Deadnaming is the act of referring to a person by the name given by their parents, instead of by the name they chose for themselves later in life. It is considered by some to be an evil insult, and considered by others as a simple reference to who someone really is.

"If you grew up with Marilyn Monroe, and you call her Norma Jean, you are deadnaming her. Stop it, you evil monster!"
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"I demand that you call her Caitlyn from now on."
"But his name is Bruce. I would feel guilty if I ignored my conscience by purposely perpetuating a lie. I don't want to force myself to use a stage name as if it was real, or to pretend that someone is someone other than who they really are. If it upsets you when I use his real name or pronoun, then I will do my best to respect his feelings, and the feelings of others with your beliefs, by avoiding referring to him by EITHER name. And I will refer to him as 'they/them' instead of 'he/him'...but I refuse to refer to him as 'she/her'. I am doing my best to show respect for his feelings and yours, and I ask that you also respect MY feelings by not trying to force me to lie, and that you please stop trying to police my thoughts and beliefs with threats of cancellation."

by RealHonestDefinition June 25, 2022

homophobiaphobiaphobia

Aversion to being harassed and cancelled simply for having an aversion to homosexuality.

There is so much homophobiaphobia that it's causing me to have homophobiaphobiaphobia!

by RealHonestDefinition April 2, 2023

Neuroconversion Therapy

A harmful practice imposed by the neuroarchy (the societal system where neurotypicals hold social dominance and expect autistic people to conform to their norms). Whereas LGBTQ+ conversion therapy is an official program run by organizations or religious groups, neuroconversion therapy is enforced systemically through everyday social pressure, without being formally named. Parents, teachers, therapists, doctors, employers, and society at large pressure autistic people to suppress their natural behaviors and adopt neurotypical social norms. This includes forced masking, discouraging stimming (engaging in repetitive movements or sounds that help with self-regulation), and requiring eye contact and small talk, even when very uncomfortable. Despite these differences in structure, both forms of conversion therapy serve the same purpose: changing a person’s identity and forcing them to conform to societal expectations. While often framed as "helpful training" or "professionalism," this process benefits neurotypical people by making interactions easier for them, while causing autistic people stress, burnout, and loss of identity.

From childhood, autistic people are informally subjected to neuroconversion therapy - parents scold them for stimming, teachers push them into social skills training, and employers expect them to mask fully successfully or be fired.

by RealHonestDefinition March 9, 2025

Dhinna

A woman who is great at making a guy fall in love with her, telling him for years that she loves him and wants to marry him...but is actually just pretending to love him.

That dhinna seemed to be extremely cute, sweet, warm, caring and loveable...but then she left me and claimed she was forced by her family to leave me. She kept saying things to give me hope that we would get back together some day, but after years of painful waiting, she finally admitted that she had never actually loved me. Thanks for teaching me that life is pointless and that nothing beautiful is actually real. Because of you, I now look forward to life ending. You're the very definition of a dhinna.

by RealHonestDefinition June 25, 2022