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The opposite of a North Star. Anything that guides you away from your goals, life purpose, or the best that is in you. It could be addiction or bad habits. It could be the wrong people. It could be hanging on to false or malignant hopes. Whatever it is, it will make your life go south. (Pun intended).
by Olive989 March 3, 2023
Get the South Star mug.(1.) The false idea that negative elements of life need to be edited or denied, for someone to be happy, successful, or even just okay. Instead of just accepting that life is full of everything: the wonderful, the terrible and everything in between.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
If you have to construct "positivity" out of the ether, and put it in places it clearly doesn't belong....it's probably bullshit. What's "positive" about lying to yourself?
by Olive989 January 6, 2022
Get the Positivity mug.In general, intuition means knowledge you have, that you are not consciously aware of. (It does not mean "feeling" or emotion.)
Most of the data your brain processes from your environment, is unconscious. But to be "intuitive" is to tap into this unconscious data particularly well.
Intuition can take several forms:
(1.) Intuition as flight/flight/instinct-
This is when your brain picks up on subtle environmental cues and rings an alarm bell like a lightning bolt of clarity, that something is about to go seriously wrong. It could be a person's micro-expressions or body language, a change to a structure or physical object, a combination of sounds...Or any number of things. But whatever it is, your unconscious mind recognizes it and is trying to save your ass.
(2.) Intuition as any kind of knowledge you have, you aren't consciously aware of.
A really intuitive person, could potentially watch a Kung Fu movie. Forget about it. Get in a fight. And only then realize they remembered a lot of the moves.
Another example would be hearing the show Jeopardy play in the background, because someone else is watching it. Maybe their mind is on their laundry and they're not really paying attention to the show. Nothing registers at the time. But a couple weeks later at college trivia night, they realize they have all these answers to random historical facts they didn't have before.
Most of the data your brain processes from your environment, is unconscious. But to be "intuitive" is to tap into this unconscious data particularly well.
Intuition can take several forms:
(1.) Intuition as flight/flight/instinct-
This is when your brain picks up on subtle environmental cues and rings an alarm bell like a lightning bolt of clarity, that something is about to go seriously wrong. It could be a person's micro-expressions or body language, a change to a structure or physical object, a combination of sounds...Or any number of things. But whatever it is, your unconscious mind recognizes it and is trying to save your ass.
(2.) Intuition as any kind of knowledge you have, you aren't consciously aware of.
A really intuitive person, could potentially watch a Kung Fu movie. Forget about it. Get in a fight. And only then realize they remembered a lot of the moves.
Another example would be hearing the show Jeopardy play in the background, because someone else is watching it. Maybe their mind is on their laundry and they're not really paying attention to the show. Nothing registers at the time. But a couple weeks later at college trivia night, they realize they have all these answers to random historical facts they didn't have before.
by Olive989 March 4, 2023
Get the Intuition mug.(1.) The easiest negative emotion to channel into productivity.
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
I'd rather deal with anger than depression or sadness any day of the week. Contrary to the suffering artist myth, most manifestations of suffering do not yield productivity.
by Olive989 March 23, 2023
Get the Anger mug.Similar to sleep apnea accept the source of you not being able to breathe/waking up... is your cat parking their butt on your face.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
I woke up gasping for air, thinking my sleep apnea was acting up again. But no. It was just Garfield's vibrating butt on my face, purring. I'm calling it catnapnea.
by Olive989 March 7, 2023
Get the Catnapnea mug.(1.) When sex is like a religious experience. The feeling is so powerful and all pervading, you have no choice but to be present. And yet you also find yourself in a state of awe, beyond all the limits of your own body and mind. Time appears to stand still and yet it moves so quickly as your body automatically does what it needs to do, without thought, pretense, or any opportunity for self-consciousness.
Just as people often go to the house of a particular religion to find God...."Take me to Church" in the context of sex, involves a physical build up so intense, the orgasms could be described as a kind of "seeing God".
(2.) To crave or hunger for someone so much, you know being with them would be a religious experience.
(Hell, if you really want to extend the religious symbolism, think of the way a supposedly demon possessed person is taken to church, "laid hands on", convulses and shakes, and then appears to be "set free" with a peaceful look on their face. The parallels between this and really great sex are obvious.)
Just as people often go to the house of a particular religion to find God...."Take me to Church" in the context of sex, involves a physical build up so intense, the orgasms could be described as a kind of "seeing God".
(2.) To crave or hunger for someone so much, you know being with them would be a religious experience.
(Hell, if you really want to extend the religious symbolism, think of the way a supposedly demon possessed person is taken to church, "laid hands on", convulses and shakes, and then appears to be "set free" with a peaceful look on their face. The parallels between this and really great sex are obvious.)
(1.) O God....He really knows how to take me to church.
(2.) I've never wanted someone to take me to church so bad in my life. I wonder if there's still seating available. The aisle closest to his lap would be preferable.
(2.) I've never wanted someone to take me to church so bad in my life. I wonder if there's still seating available. The aisle closest to his lap would be preferable.
by Olive989 March 8, 2023
Get the Take me to Church mug.Face sitting/riding that is particularly eager, aggressive, or enthusiastic in such a way it parallels waterboarding.
Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
I feel so bad I Guantanamo Bae 'd my boyfriend's face. I just couldn't control it. They say the heart wants what it wants. But damn. I guess the pussy does too.
by Olive989 March 17, 2023
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