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The absence of something (some detail, signal, or anomaly) which highlights an answer to a problem or question.
Doctors used to believe all disease manifested as something foreign/outside the body attacking it. In the case of Scurvy, a lot of doctors got tunnel vision looking for a positive cue. (Some Germ or pathogen present that would explain the condition.) But none was to be found. It wasn't until biochemist Fredrick Gowland Hopkins considered what was absent (a lack of vitamin C) that the true cause of scurvy was discovered. This absence was a negative cue.
by Olive989 October 25, 2023
Get the Negative Cue mug.Just as color perception (and in turn blindness) exists on a spectrum, so too does the ability to experience emotions.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
I've never heard someone say they wish they were colorblind, but I've heard a ton of people say they wish they lacked certain feelings, because they think it would solve all their problems. This is kind of like thinking you could avoid getting stuck in traffic if you no longer saw the red in a red light. Emotion is not the heart of the problem.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
Get the Emotional Color Blindness mug.(1.) A short person who wishes they were taller, and has passionate feelings about it.
(2.) The emotion felt by every bird God gave wings, that can't fly. Many a baby ostrich and Emu has sought therapy after looking at birds in the sky, flapping their little fuzzy wings, and not being able to produce the desired result.
(2.) The emotion felt by every bird God gave wings, that can't fly. Many a baby ostrich and Emu has sought therapy after looking at birds in the sky, flapping their little fuzzy wings, and not being able to produce the desired result.
(1.) As a short guy, I find dating websites vertically frustrating. .
(2.) Vertically frustrated ostrich seeks pilot license.
(2.) Vertically frustrated ostrich seeks pilot license.
by Olive989 March 3, 2023
Get the Vertically Frustrated mug.Similar to sleep apnea accept the source of you not being able to breathe/waking up... is your cat parking their butt on your face.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
I woke up gasping for air, thinking my sleep apnea was acting up again. But no. It was just Garfield's vibrating butt on my face, purring. I'm calling it catnapnea.
by Olive989 March 7, 2023
Get the Catnapnea mug.(1.) When sex is like a religious experience. The feeling is so powerful and all pervading, you have no choice but to be present. And yet you also find yourself in a state of awe, beyond all the limits of your own body and mind. Time appears to stand still and yet it moves so quickly as your body automatically does what it needs to do, without thought, pretense, or any opportunity for self-consciousness.
Just as people often go to the house of a particular religion to find God...."Take me to Church" in the context of sex, involves a physical build up so intense, the orgasms could be described as a kind of "seeing God".
(2.) To crave or hunger for someone so much, you know being with them would be a religious experience.
(Hell, if you really want to extend the religious symbolism, think of the way a supposedly demon possessed person is taken to church, "laid hands on", convulses and shakes, and then appears to be "set free" with a peaceful look on their face. The parallels between this and really great sex are obvious.)
Just as people often go to the house of a particular religion to find God...."Take me to Church" in the context of sex, involves a physical build up so intense, the orgasms could be described as a kind of "seeing God".
(2.) To crave or hunger for someone so much, you know being with them would be a religious experience.
(Hell, if you really want to extend the religious symbolism, think of the way a supposedly demon possessed person is taken to church, "laid hands on", convulses and shakes, and then appears to be "set free" with a peaceful look on their face. The parallels between this and really great sex are obvious.)
(1.) O God....He really knows how to take me to church.
(2.) I've never wanted someone to take me to church so bad in my life. I wonder if there's still seating available. The aisle closest to his lap would be preferable.
(2.) I've never wanted someone to take me to church so bad in my life. I wonder if there's still seating available. The aisle closest to his lap would be preferable.
by Olive989 March 8, 2023
Get the Take me to Church mug.A girl who got stuck on a really hellish date, because a guy thought she owed him after giving her food.
With all the meat and fiery pits down here, you'd think the King of Hell would have at least summoned me some kind of chargrilled burger. But no. He gave me a piece of fruit that's like 90% seed. Of all the things that could've kept me down here...This seems like a particularly shitty deal.
-Persephone
-Persephone
by Olive989 March 12, 2023
Get the Persephone mug.(1.) The false idea that negative elements of life need to be edited or denied, for someone to be happy, successful, or even just okay. Instead of just accepting that life is full of everything: the wonderful, the terrible and everything in between.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
If you have to construct "positivity" out of the ether, and put it in places it clearly doesn't belong....it's probably bullshit. What's "positive" about lying to yourself?
by Olive989 January 6, 2022
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