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(1.) When someone tries to hold a contest on whose had it worse, as if suffering was a cereal box with a prize at the bottom.. And not in fact, a depressing reality with no winners.
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
People who try to turn other people's pain into the suffering olympics, usually have one of two goals:
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
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I want to live up to my bird of prey potential, but right now I'm just a bird of pray.
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-Great Horned Owl. That's hoo.
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by Olive989 March 10, 2023
Get the Great Horned Owl mug.(1.) Strength in the face of overwhelming odds. A byproduct of the belief that there is something better out there. Something worth hoping for...in this life or the next.
(2.) The ability to consider the motivations of other people, and not just the content of what they say or do (good or bad).
(2.) The ability to consider the motivations of other people, and not just the content of what they say or do (good or bad).
(1). Many people who lack resilience are not "weak". They are just lost. I know what it is to be lost.
(2). When insulted or flattered, many people get lost in their self-consciousness or only consider the content of what is said. Considering why people speak and act the way they do is far more important and shields you from a lot of harm and unwise decisions. This creates a form of resilience.
(2). When insulted or flattered, many people get lost in their self-consciousness or only consider the content of what is said. Considering why people speak and act the way they do is far more important and shields you from a lot of harm and unwise decisions. This creates a form of resilience.
by Olive989 May 6, 2024
Get the Resilience mug.(1.) An asinine term said by fucked up authority figures, who think age should trump critical thinking, common sense, honest dialogue, or any sense of reasonableness.
There's a reason no adult accuses another adult of "talking back". It's as stupid as accusing a bird of chirping. If an adult wants to tell another adult they're being disrespectful, they use the term, "talking smack."
"Talking back" in contrast, is just the natural response anyone should expect, when they direct their words at another person. If someone does not wish to have a response to the things they are saying, furniture, inanimate objects, and non-human animals are available.
(2.) An adult example of regression, in which age is used as an excuse to not give an adult response, and instead basically tell someone to shut up.
There's a reason no adult accuses another adult of "talking back". It's as stupid as accusing a bird of chirping. If an adult wants to tell another adult they're being disrespectful, they use the term, "talking smack."
"Talking back" in contrast, is just the natural response anyone should expect, when they direct their words at another person. If someone does not wish to have a response to the things they are saying, furniture, inanimate objects, and non-human animals are available.
(2.) An adult example of regression, in which age is used as an excuse to not give an adult response, and instead basically tell someone to shut up.
Person A: Stop talking back to me sunny boy!
Person B: Okay. Your wish is my command. *executes 6 month vow of silence*
Person B: Okay. Your wish is my command. *executes 6 month vow of silence*
by Olive989 March 9, 2023
Get the Talking Back mug.Just as color perception (and in turn blindness) exists on a spectrum, so too does the ability to experience emotions.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
I've never heard someone say they wish they were colorblind, but I've heard a ton of people say they wish they lacked certain feelings, because they think it would solve all their problems. This is kind of like thinking you could avoid getting stuck in traffic if you no longer saw the red in a red light. Emotion is not the heart of the problem.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
Get the Emotional Color Blindness mug.An asthmatic baby dragon that wheezes small puffs of fire. Just wants to make friends, but ends up accidently burning stuff down, when he forgets his inhaler. The last time was at a furniture store. His friend was really looking forward to that sofa set. It was so soft before it was crispy.
Puff the magic dragon is seriously over having asthma.
Puff the magic dragon wishes he got his name listening to Bob Marley and smoking a bowl instead. He thinks that sounds nice.
Puff the magic dragon wishes he got his name listening to Bob Marley and smoking a bowl instead. He thinks that sounds nice.
by Olive989 March 1, 2023
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