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This is a shout out to all the young eagles, hawks, falcons and vultures, (birds of prey) who are afraid of heights. And find themselves praying for the courage to push their little taloned feet off the tree and into the pretty blue sky.
You can do it!
You can do it!
I want to live up to my bird of prey potential, but right now I'm just a bird of pray.
-Baldy Mcflapflap
-Baldy Mcflapflap
by Olive989 March 14, 2023
Get the Bird of Pray mug.Just as color perception (and in turn blindness) exists on a spectrum, so too does the ability to experience emotions.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
I've never heard someone say they wish they were colorblind, but I've heard a ton of people say they wish they lacked certain feelings, because they think it would solve all their problems. This is kind of like thinking you could avoid getting stuck in traffic if you no longer saw the red in a red light. Emotion is not the heart of the problem.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
Get the Emotional Color Blindness mug.(1.) When someone tries to hold a contest on whose had it worse, as if suffering was a cereal box with a prize at the bottom.. And not in fact, a depressing reality with no winners.
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
People who try to turn other people's pain into the suffering olympics, usually have one of two goals:
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
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Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
I feel so bad I Guantanamo Bae 'd my boyfriend's face. I just couldn't control it. They say the heart wants what it wants. But damn. I guess the pussy does too.
by Olive989 March 17, 2023
Get the Guantanamo Bae mug.Everybody loves a story about an underdog who overcame incredible odds, or a prodigal son/daughter who found redemption. This in itself does not qualify as “Inspiration Porn”.
(1.) In general, Inspiration porn is when an individual takes someone else’s genuinely inspirational story and uses it to support their point of view on something. (This point of view is often revolting and completely detached from the life experience of the story they are using.)
Example: A guy posts a story about a multiple amputee athlete with something like, “Quit your excuses” when the guy is neither an athlete, or suffering from a physical disability. (Just hates fat people).
(2.) When someone takes a one in a million odds story, and tries to use it to make a case that X, Y, Z, systemic issue is not really a problem, because this one person in a million got past it.
(3.) When a person with all the tact and empathy of a rock, uses inspirational stories to justify their general lack of compassion, (often while laboring under the delusion that they themselves are beacons of total self-sufficiency.) This sort of person often pays scrupulous attention to the beginning and end of an inspirational story, while ignoring everything in between.
(1.) In general, Inspiration porn is when an individual takes someone else’s genuinely inspirational story and uses it to support their point of view on something. (This point of view is often revolting and completely detached from the life experience of the story they are using.)
Example: A guy posts a story about a multiple amputee athlete with something like, “Quit your excuses” when the guy is neither an athlete, or suffering from a physical disability. (Just hates fat people).
(2.) When someone takes a one in a million odds story, and tries to use it to make a case that X, Y, Z, systemic issue is not really a problem, because this one person in a million got past it.
(3.) When a person with all the tact and empathy of a rock, uses inspirational stories to justify their general lack of compassion, (often while laboring under the delusion that they themselves are beacons of total self-sufficiency.) This sort of person often pays scrupulous attention to the beginning and end of an inspirational story, while ignoring everything in between.
An inspirational story wouldn’t be considered inspirational if the outcome was likely or probable. So you’ve got to be equal parts revolting and stupid, to try and use “inspiration porn” as an argument for what every person should achieve. Especially when that life experience is completely out of your depth.
Be careful to watch out for snakes who try and use inspiration porn as an excuse to keep the world just the way it is, while ignoring systemic injustices.
Be careful to watch out for snakes who try and use inspiration porn as an excuse to keep the world just the way it is, while ignoring systemic injustices.
by Olive989 March 21, 2023
Get the Inspiration Porn mug.(1.) The easiest negative emotion to channel into productivity.
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
I'd rather deal with anger than depression or sadness any day of the week. Contrary to the suffering artist myth, most manifestations of suffering do not yield productivity.
by Olive989 March 23, 2023
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Note (1.) A snake in the grass doesn't have to be sadistic, but they have to be self-serving enough, they don't care who they hurt in the process of achieving what they want.
Note (2.) The term "snake in the grass" has been around a long time. Long before people had lawnmowers, or constantly trimmed their lawns like a military buzz cut. So the grass metaphor used to be more obvious. When the average person's lawn used to grow past their ankles..snakes were rarely visible.
Note (1.) A snake in the grass doesn't have to be sadistic, but they have to be self-serving enough, they don't care who they hurt in the process of achieving what they want.
Note (2.) The term "snake in the grass" has been around a long time. Long before people had lawnmowers, or constantly trimmed their lawns like a military buzz cut. So the grass metaphor used to be more obvious. When the average person's lawn used to grow past their ankles..snakes were rarely visible.
If you want to describe a cold blooded human with hidden intentions, "snake in the grass" isn't a bad choice.
by Olive989 March 23, 2023
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