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Just as color perception (and in turn blindness) exists on a spectrum, so too does the ability to experience emotions.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
Most people who experience color deficiency, do not have issues with all color (red and green are most common). Color blindness can also come with heightened awareness in other areas...like better than average night vision or a keener sense of smell.
These details parallel well when describing people with emotional deficiencies, in that:
(1.) Someone on the spectrum for narcissistic traits, often still keenly feels rage, envy, hatred and fear.
(2.) Narcissists experience the above emotions more often and at greater intensity than the average person, BECAUSE they lack the ability to feel other emotions (like empathy) which might otherwise (ironically) diminish and balance those feelings out.
(3.) Even a full blown psychopath with no neurotypical fear response, (I.E. only feels an adrenaline rush) is not 100% emotionally colorblind. They still experience pleasure in a limited, ego driven sort of way. If this were not the case, they would have no motivation to do anything, (including anything bad.)
(4.) Total lack of emotional feeling and complete colorblindness, are both incredibly rare, and can signal something more serious...like a brain injury or a neurological condition.
I've never heard someone say they wish they were colorblind, but I've heard a ton of people say they wish they lacked certain feelings, because they think it would solve all their problems. This is kind of like thinking you could avoid getting stuck in traffic if you no longer saw the red in a red light. Emotion is not the heart of the problem.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
Emotional color blindness might very well take away things like: codependence, trauma responses and making personal sacrifices for conscientious decisions...but it would also diminish your capacity for joy and your ability to have meaningful relationships with anybody.
Better to sort out the kinks, then throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
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Puff the magic dragon is seriously over having asthma.
Puff the magic dragon wishes he got his name listening to Bob Marley and smoking a bowl instead. He thinks that sounds nice.
Puff the magic dragon wishes he got his name listening to Bob Marley and smoking a bowl instead. He thinks that sounds nice.
by Olive989 March 1, 2023
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-Great Horned Owl. That's hoo.
-Great Horned Owl. That's hoo.
by Olive989 March 10, 2023
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(This new meaning can be wildly different from what the original two words mean on their own).
Additionally, there are three different kinds of Compound Words: Open, Closed, and Hyphenated.
Closed compound words have no spaces. Open compound words have separation between the two (or three) words. Hyphenated compound words have hyphens between words.
(Closed Compound Words):
Justice- Just, Ice,
Bargain- Bar, gain,
Kidnapping- Kid, Napping,
Grandparent- Grand, Parent,
Babysit- Baby, Sit,
Pineapple- Pine, Apple,
(Open Compound Words):
(While there’s a physical space between open compound words, the meanings of the two words have been combined. This is why they are still considered Compound.)
Examples:
Cell Phone- Cell, Phone,
First Aid- First, Aid,
Common Sense- Common, Sense,
Real Estate- Real, Estate,
Life Jacket- Life, Jacket,
Rib Cage- Rib, Cage,
Hot Dog- Hot, Dog,
Cotton Candy- Cotton, Candy,
(Hyphenated Compound Words):
Well-being- Well, Being,
Word-of-mouth- Word, Mouth, Of,
Up-to-date- Up, date, to,
(This new meaning can be wildly different from what the original two words mean on their own).
Additionally, there are three different kinds of Compound Words: Open, Closed, and Hyphenated.
Closed compound words have no spaces. Open compound words have separation between the two (or three) words. Hyphenated compound words have hyphens between words.
(Closed Compound Words):
Justice- Just, Ice,
Bargain- Bar, gain,
Kidnapping- Kid, Napping,
Grandparent- Grand, Parent,
Babysit- Baby, Sit,
Pineapple- Pine, Apple,
(Open Compound Words):
(While there’s a physical space between open compound words, the meanings of the two words have been combined. This is why they are still considered Compound.)
Examples:
Cell Phone- Cell, Phone,
First Aid- First, Aid,
Common Sense- Common, Sense,
Real Estate- Real, Estate,
Life Jacket- Life, Jacket,
Rib Cage- Rib, Cage,
Hot Dog- Hot, Dog,
Cotton Candy- Cotton, Candy,
(Hyphenated Compound Words):
Well-being- Well, Being,
Word-of-mouth- Word, Mouth, Of,
Up-to-date- Up, date, to,
Most native English speakers don't give compound words much thought...because we're so overly familiar with them in every day speech. However...Compound words are a great testament to how bizarre (and often hilarious) the English language can be.
Like think about the distinct departure in meaning between say: kidnapping vs. kid napping or one nightstand vs. one night stand, Or what about how we decided to define generational age with words like "Grand" or "Great?" (I.E. Great-Great-Grandparent). We all know there's nothing grand about aging itself, and not everyone's grandparents qualify as "grand" either. "Hot dog" is another little adventure.
There is so much about the world that's wonderful and weird sitting in front of us, but we miss out because we don't pay attention to what's overly familiar.
Like think about the distinct departure in meaning between say: kidnapping vs. kid napping or one nightstand vs. one night stand, Or what about how we decided to define generational age with words like "Grand" or "Great?" (I.E. Great-Great-Grandparent). We all know there's nothing grand about aging itself, and not everyone's grandparents qualify as "grand" either. "Hot dog" is another little adventure.
There is so much about the world that's wonderful and weird sitting in front of us, but we miss out because we don't pay attention to what's overly familiar.
by Olive989 March 27, 2023
Get the Compound Words mug.(1.) A word someone uses, whenever there's a hard (but simple) reality in front of them, they don't want to face.
Things that are genuinely/inherently complicated, are called, "complex". (You'll notice nobody refers to their relationship status as "complex", because deep down even they know they're lying to themselves. )
(2.) A synonym for "None of your business".
Things that are genuinely/inherently complicated, are called, "complex". (You'll notice nobody refers to their relationship status as "complex", because deep down even they know they're lying to themselves. )
(2.) A synonym for "None of your business".
(1.) He says he doesn't want a relationship right now, because he's got a lot going on. His direct response and terrible excuse make things so complicated. Ugh. Whatever will I do with these obscure words shrouded in mystery?
(2.) Person A: "How about you tell me that Mountain Slope story Sheila?"
Person B: "Maybe another time Jerry. It's complicated."
(2.) Person A: "How about you tell me that Mountain Slope story Sheila?"
Person B: "Maybe another time Jerry. It's complicated."
by Olive989 March 3, 2023
Get the Complicated mug.Loyalty is basically the word "investment" but with an opinion or point of view attached.
Loyalty is treated like a virtue, but it can't inherently be one, by itself. Case in point: People in hate groups are very loyal. So is someone with Stockholm Syndrome.
Investing your time and energy in a person or idea, over time...is a completely neutral act without a who, what or why attached.
Loyalty is treated like a virtue, but it can't inherently be one, by itself. Case in point: People in hate groups are very loyal. So is someone with Stockholm Syndrome.
Investing your time and energy in a person or idea, over time...is a completely neutral act without a who, what or why attached.
Loyalty is such a dubious, perspective based word. It's right up there with "honor". Other virtues like love and honesty, are intrinsically valuable even if you love or are honest with the wrong person. This is not the case with loyalty. Being loyal to the wrong people is often based on fear, codependence, or the "birds of a feather" principle.
by Olive989 March 7, 2023
Get the Loyalty mug.(1.) When someone tries to hold a contest on whose had it worse, as if suffering was a cereal box with a prize at the bottom.. And not in fact, a depressing reality with no winners.
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
(2.) Employing mental gymnastics to try and cement the message that your suffering is the only suffering that counts.
A suffering olympics can be held in either a one on one scenario (where the person directly compares their own suffering)...Or it could be a context where the person compares first world to third world problems, and individual vs. Systemic, (always as if one cancels out the other. )
People who try to turn other people's pain into the suffering olympics, usually have one of two goals:
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
(1.) They're purely seeking personal vindication, because they're too dumb to realize this isn't a contest anyone should want to win.
(2.) They're trying to police someone else's feelings, boundaries or expectations, after being called out for bad behavior. (I.E. I'm not that bad because I had it so much worse growing up. (Or) How dare you even suggest I modify my behavior in any way! Aren't you aware there are children in Africa dying of AIDS?!)
by Olive989 March 15, 2023
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