an older lady who spends time in singles bars trying to pick up guys who are closer to the age she was when she first started hanging out in bars. Usually chain smoking low priced cigarettes, and the second hand smoke is her "steam". Especially common in the rural south.

A portmanteau of carpe diem, a Latin phrase that means “Seize the Day!” and DM, which stands for Direct Messages. This word means seizing the day via DMs.