1)Loving someone regardless of your needs.

2)Loving others without loving yourself.

3)whatever you do,you do it with your heart
4)Loving without any attachments to an expectation in return.

A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.