A pick-me girl is a girl who seeks male validation by indirectly or directly insinuating that she is “not like the other girls.” Basically a female version of a simp. Characteristics of a pick-me girl: lets men walk all over her because of her “CaReFrEE” demeanor, only hangs out with men because they’re “unproblematic”, exerts qualities/characteristics of her male counterparts that were not initially present to be more likable and relatable to them, etc.
Ex. 1:
Pick-me girl to her ONE girl acquaintance: “Yeah, I just have sOoo many guy friends because they’re so chill and not catty like literally every girl is lol!!”
Ex. 2:
Pick me girl: *Just starts skating because she sees all the cute skater boys on TikTok doing it*
*May or may not post all over social media her one good run boarding/holding her board like she didn’t just start skating yesterday*
Pick-me girl to her ONE girl acquaintance: “Yeah, I just have sOoo many guy friends because they’re so chill and not catty like literally every girl is lol!!”
Ex. 2:
Pick me girl: *Just starts skating because she sees all the cute skater boys on TikTok doing it*
*May or may not post all over social media her one good run boarding/holding her board like she didn’t just start skating yesterday*
by Qtpie45 June 14, 2020
The meaning of a “Pick-me girl” is a person who tries to be ‘different’ to impress men, Pick-me girls will constantly seek attention from males. Beware of them..
by I like dinosaurs 🦖 March 4, 2022
Has now become an insult that catty girls (who are also unpopular and don’t have friends of several genders) use to tear other girls down for having male friends or enjoying non-traditionally feminine activities. This term intended originally to call out anti-feminine sexism has become sexist itself and ironically proves that the pick-me girl is in fact different from catty drama queens.
The quiet girls were jealous of the girl who had boys and girls as friends and decided to ostracize her and validate their sexism by calling her a pick-me girl.
by Utahpowermom November 8, 2022
A shitty insult used by jealous bitchy women or ugly femcels on Twitter as a cope for why no man wants to fuck them. They call attractive, cute, and popular girls "pick-me girls" just because lots of guys like them and insist that they're "seeking validation" from guys. In reality, those who use it are bitter and jealous cunts who are mad that they're unfuckable due to their shitty attitude and/or ugly looks.
Femcel: "Fuck Shoe0nHead and her stupid Male Loneliness video! She's such a pick-me girl!"
Guy: "Fuck off, cunt."
Guy: "Fuck off, cunt."
by Waterbreath September 29, 2023
A girl exhibiting desperate, attention-seeking behavior, usually arising out of social insecurity. She seeks a stable identity in a social group by mirroring the behavior of the males at the top of a dominance hierachy. Sorority pick-me girls will wear their caps backwards and shotgun beers to fit in with the alpha frat guys. Alt pick-me girls will adopt alt fashion styles or hobbies such as gaming or skating to fit in with the alt sigma types.
Unbeknownst to pick-me girls, social acceptance is the result of someone authentically expressing admired qualities, rather than consciously manipulative social signalling. Because a pick-me girl draws a surface-level conclusion about what garners attention and then fabricates an entire personality around this observation, she slowly becomes a vapid human being.
Most pick-me girls in modern society successfully receive validation from simp males who don't understand female behavior. Normal girls hate to see this. On the other hand, there is hope for a pick-me girl. If pick-me girls are genuinely open to mastering a hobby or interest, they become real social contributors. The safe space created by shared genuine interest can cure the pick-me girl of her social insecurities, thus letting go of the need for male validation in the first place. Normal girls ESPECIALLY hate it when a pick-me girl successfully becomes interesting and truly respected by the male dominance hierarchy - they never let it go that she started as a pick-me girl.
Unbeknownst to pick-me girls, social acceptance is the result of someone authentically expressing admired qualities, rather than consciously manipulative social signalling. Because a pick-me girl draws a surface-level conclusion about what garners attention and then fabricates an entire personality around this observation, she slowly becomes a vapid human being.
Most pick-me girls in modern society successfully receive validation from simp males who don't understand female behavior. Normal girls hate to see this. On the other hand, there is hope for a pick-me girl. If pick-me girls are genuinely open to mastering a hobby or interest, they become real social contributors. The safe space created by shared genuine interest can cure the pick-me girl of her social insecurities, thus letting go of the need for male validation in the first place. Normal girls ESPECIALLY hate it when a pick-me girl successfully becomes interesting and truly respected by the male dominance hierarchy - they never let it go that she started as a pick-me girl.
Mason: Yo, Amy is such a pick-me girl. Idk if she can hang, bruh.
Doug: Nah, dawg. Amy is actually really cool. She did a nosegrind last week - she can actually skate better than most of the crew. Yeah, she started off being a lil much, but I actually respect her hustle now.
David: Yeah, Amy's dope. Also she has one hell of a rack.
Amy: Fuck off, David. I'm standing right here.
Doug: Nah, dawg. Amy is actually really cool. She did a nosegrind last week - she can actually skate better than most of the crew. Yeah, she started off being a lil much, but I actually respect her hustle now.
David: Yeah, Amy's dope. Also she has one hell of a rack.
Amy: Fuck off, David. I'm standing right here.
by socialsavv December 23, 2022
a pick me girl is very easy to distinguish for other girls but men tend to fall for it very easily. A pick me girl will RAVE about how she only hangouts with the male species because its “easier and less drama filled” but in reality non pick me girls just don’t claim her. She will go out of her way to make fun of a gf for something private or embarrassing they told her in front of a group of guys to make them like her less. It goes without say that she will act COMPLETELY different when ur around guys verses when you are alone with her (girl to girl) Will constantly remind you that she is not like other girls and she doesn’t try around other boys because they like that she’s natural and wears sweatpants and might even go out of her way to say she is like a sister or mom to her male friends. Men fail to identify this type of pick me girl because she tends to “flex” her male relationship on other girls and hypocritically complain about pick me girls in-front of the guys . Overall very misogynistic because she wants men to like her! Don’t be fooled taken men because your gf probably sees it more than you do.
Erica: I think I’m into Zach do you think i should go for it?
Pick me girl: OMG ugh he’s like a brother to me we facetime all the time!!!
Erica: I’m so excited for Ben’s party! I can’t wait to look cute i haven’t in so long
Pick me girl: see we are totally different becuz like i don’t have to try around them bc they just know me so well and i’m just like comfortable looking lazy and not try around them
Pick me girl: *randomly texts Erica* isn’t it like so weird that i can’t find a good present for johns birthday like I KNOW HIM SOO WELL and we r sooo close i’m like his sister and i give him like so much advice.
Pick me girl: OMG ugh he’s like a brother to me we facetime all the time!!!
Erica: I’m so excited for Ben’s party! I can’t wait to look cute i haven’t in so long
Pick me girl: see we are totally different becuz like i don’t have to try around them bc they just know me so well and i’m just like comfortable looking lazy and not try around them
Pick me girl: *randomly texts Erica* isn’t it like so weird that i can’t find a good present for johns birthday like I KNOW HIM SOO WELL and we r sooo close i’m like his sister and i give him like so much advice.
by urmomsuncle May 13, 2021
A pick me girl is a girl who typically hangs out with guys purely because she craves validation from them (often due to daddy issues) she will purposely change her behaviour when around a group of boys and most likely point out your insecurities or secrets you told her personally and make fun of you in-front of them. They will brag about how they are “natural” and how they do things “girls wouldn’t normally do” like claim to skate or play sports. (they most likely suck) they also continuously speak aloud about how “hanging out with guys is easier because its less drama” when in actual fact girls don’t claim her because of how fucking annoying she is and she has lost all of her friends due to the pick me girl exposing them in-front of stupid ass boys. You probably know one in real life. Drop them immediately if they do. This also come from internalised misogyny. Some appear on tik tik, disagreeing with feminist and bashing other women just for them to get some buzz from boys telling her in the comments “we found a good on boys” “woah a funny woman for once” either way stay away from these girls they’re fucking annoying and will literally add to each and every insecurity you have keep your head up queen.
*being nice to your face* *group of boys who probably don't even like her that much come over”
“hiiii guyysss! omg no yeah we were just talking about how *insert name* needs to fix her makeup! yeah like I wouldn’t know because I dont wear ANY makeup like i’m so natural and I’m too busy gaming to wear makeup ahahah!”
Josh : “*under breath* I bet shes not even that good”
Pick me Girl: *touches arm*
“omg josshhh stoppp ahahah stopp no literally like I love minecraft yeah like I found diamonds yesterday like omg like yeah are you proud? *fake laugh* ahaha yeah”
Pick me girl to ‘friend’: I swear like you wear loads of makeup right? omg YEAH its to cover up your ACNE right? yeah my skin is so clear because i clearly dont wear makeup so I DONT have that problem but like yeah you kinda need makeup...i can still kind of see it... *looks to boys for approval”
“hiiii guyysss! omg no yeah we were just talking about how *insert name* needs to fix her makeup! yeah like I wouldn’t know because I dont wear ANY makeup like i’m so natural and I’m too busy gaming to wear makeup ahahah!”
Josh : “*under breath* I bet shes not even that good”
Pick me Girl: *touches arm*
“omg josshhh stoppp ahahah stopp no literally like I love minecraft yeah like I found diamonds yesterday like omg like yeah are you proud? *fake laugh* ahaha yeah”
Pick me girl to ‘friend’: I swear like you wear loads of makeup right? omg YEAH its to cover up your ACNE right? yeah my skin is so clear because i clearly dont wear makeup so I DONT have that problem but like yeah you kinda need makeup...i can still kind of see it... *looks to boys for approval”
by dracularua August 11, 2020