The definition of 'pej' means sexual. You can act, look, and feel pej. It doesnt matter if u dont feel it or act it u can still look pej.

A man who messes around with other men, but no one would ever know by looking or talking to him. Used by gay black men to identify masculine gay men or DL Brothas.

Said by queer women when referring to straight girls who will probably not be straight anymore in like 5 years.