You can't change who you are unless you want to, but whether you want to is part of who you are. Some paradox.

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Here is a paradox:

Nothing is better than a glass of beer.
A half-glass of beer is better than nothing.
Therefore, a half-glass of beer is better than a glass of beer.

The below statement is false.
The above statement is true.

Mike - "I was sure I would get a girlfriend last weekend. Sadly, it was a paradox".

I went to the farm and slaughtered a paradox.

If I went back in time and killed my mother, then I would be dead. But I would never have been able to go back in time to kill my mother if I died.