having the strength to trust someone to pay you back in full. if the debt is paid, both parties become stronger. but if it is not paid, the person in debt loses his strength and is never to be trusted again.

A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.