When a tense or complex situation deteriorates to such an unmanageable level because all the leaders/bosses/participants are trying to do different things, but none of it meshes together. Emphasis for Kentucky due to its backwards hillbilly history.

A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.