someone who tells someone not to do something and goes on and does it them selves they will care if you do something to them but if they do it to you it’s no big deal

The phenomenon of having to come out as bisexual to the same person/people repeatedly because they assumed or hoped that your sexuality was a "phase." Refers less to the holiday and more to the 1993 Bill Murray comedy film in which the main character experiences the same day over and over.