When some form of social framework, behavior or functioning, isn't taking place as might be desired, as structured or as intended. In other words, when something social (involving that which is related to more than one individual) is 'out of sync', not functioning optimally, inappropriately or ineffectively.
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See: aberrant~ly, haphazard~ly, inaccurate~ly; with such being socially interrelated in mind

Briefly, "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." Originally from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, which has a lot more beautiful neologism definitions like this you might enjoy.