Usually a brown dude, that's not that attractive, but is always looking out for you. He'll do anything for his friends, but sometimes he has to relax on the drink. Christaan is usually afraid of his parents, but will do anything to amuse his boys. He'll also protect them no matter what. He's good with younger kids, and stays back when his mans are finding shordies. He always says there's someone for me, I just gotta find them

Briefly, "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." Originally from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, which has a lot more beautiful neologism definitions like this you might enjoy.