A truth that many should recognize. You can't make someone into something they are not. If you like banker types don't marry a construction worker. If you like the bad girl look don't marry the girl next door.

v. collectively or individually finding someone/something to blame for a problem, as opposed to brainstorming which connotes finding solutions to a problem

n. the act of finding someone/something to blame for a problem

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