Someone who is a "stand up guy" has warm balls. The art of being a "man" (take charge, strong beliefs, tough in spirit, and action) yet warm and charming. Akin to testosterone charisma.

A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.